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Toilet Paper and Burnout

Posted by Valerie Ling on March 9, 2020 at 2:50 AM

Toilet Paper and Burnout ...


It's no laughing matter - as a business owner this week I am placing priority on reviewing COVID-19 for our procedures and reaching out to our clients who are likely to feel quite anxious.


It did cause me to stop and think about the mentality of scarcity and fear. It seems a basic human instinct to assume that we will run out of essential resources and that we will feel trapped and out of options. Assuming this position leads ...

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Get used to pacing

Posted by Valerie Ling on February 25, 2020 at 3:15 AM

Every appliance I have ever had I am used to taking care of the motor it has so as not to burn it out. Giving them a rest in between high intensity bursts. I get really uncomfortable when I start to sense the motor heating up and I am quick to switch it off.


Do you feel that way about yourself as well? Usually we blame our lousy motor for not being able to keep up. We think we must have some faulty part some where. That other people must be the superior version of human, wh...

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Freedom comes in many ways

Posted by Valerie Ling on February 22, 2020 at 10:50 PM

Going through my Sunday, I am aware of feeling a kind of fatigue. My body is asking me to rest up today, and my mind is asking for a break from the details of moving house, managing the gremlins in the practice and keeping up to date with the home-school routines (another note????) . I am aware of a few small shifts I have made today, and I wanted to share with you...


Sunday is a day of church for us, and I chose to sit in a section that was totally different today. I met a...

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Work That Dress!

Posted by Valerie Ling on February 12, 2020 at 5:35 PM

When you are piled up with all the things that are going wrong and you know you need to do something different! Here's what happened today:

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Raw Chicken and Onions

Posted by Valerie Ling on February 12, 2020 at 6:30 AM

Raw Chicken and Onions

I was on my way home from work when I thought about how it was going to be tricky to get dinner going while trying to fit some things that had cropped up. I thought about how I could simplify the process and perhaps delegate it out. One of the values I have as a parent is for my children to find opportunities to serve others. I thought this would be a great opportunity for one of them to serve the family - by cooking dinner.


I called home and a ...

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Mindset Matters

Posted by Valerie Ling on January 31, 2020 at 7:55 AM

I took a difficult path today and I took it because I knew I had to


I have come back from annual leave and there are a couple of things that are standard, my summer reading books and time to reflect on the year ahead. It's also a really important time to ask some important questions.


Why are you doing what you do Val...

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Work in Flow

Posted by Valerie Ling on January 13, 2020 at 7:05 PM



In my work with clients, I notice how rigid we can sometimes be with our expectations on when we 'should' work. Guilt when we are not working this way can lead to further burnout.


Understanding the science of productivity and creativity, you will find that what is more helpful is to know your individual ingredients to achieve flow.


Flow is a pleasurable state of being highly engaged, focused, distraction free, wrapped ...

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Who You Are and Who You're Becoming

Posted by Valerie Ling on December 16, 2019 at 2:50 AM

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Posted by Valerie Ling on November 25, 2019 at 9:15 PM


It really won't kill us...


I was tagged in a post asking me what I thought about a fairly comprehensive article looking at the simple acts of connection and kindness and the research that shows through all of our human spaces, family, friendships, work and well being - human connection and kindness is such a powerful antidote.


My first reaction was to ...

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Tell 'em to Dream, Son

Posted by Valerie Ling on November 18, 2019 at 1:35 AM

A casual lunch conversation where I reflected on a tendency for us to tell young people not to expect to have some burning passion or dream. Perhaps it is a way of us trying to protect a generation who has lived through the disappointment of governments, profound political upheaval and higher levels of family disruption than ever before from further disappointment. The disappointment of dreams not coming tr...

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