|Posted by Valerie Ling on January 31, 2020 at 7:55 AM|
I took a difficult path today and I took it because I knew I had to
I have come back from annual leave and there are a couple of things that are standard, my summer reading books and time to reflect on the year ahead. It's also a really important time to ask some important questions.
Why are you doing wh...Read Full Post »
|Posted by Valerie Ling on January 13, 2020 at 7:05 PM|
WORKING WITH FLOW
In my work with clients, I notice how rigid we can sometimes be with our expectations on when we 'should' work. Guilt when we are not working this way can lead to further burnout.
Understanding the science of productivity and creativity, you will find that what is more helpful is to know your individual ingredients to achieve flow.
Flow is a pleasurable state of being highly engaged, focused, distraction free, wrapped ...Read Full Post »
|Posted by Valerie Ling on November 25, 2019 at 9:15 PM|
It really won't kill us...
I was tagged in a post asking me what I thought about a fairly comprehensive article looking at the simple acts of connection and kindness and the research that shows through all of our human spaces, family, friendships, work and well being - human connection and kindness is such a powerful...Read Full Post »
|Posted by Valerie Ling on November 18, 2019 at 1:35 AM|
A casual lunch conversation where I reflected on a tendency for us to tell young people not to expect to have some burning passion or dream. Perhaps it is a way of us trying to protect a generation who has lived through the disappointment of governments, profound political upheaval and higher levels of family disruption than ever before from further dis...Read Full Post »
|Posted by Valerie Ling on November 11, 2019 at 12:30 AM|
Of all the things I get asked, today I was asked this lovely question by a friend, "When's your holiday?" You can imagine that in our household, quite a bit of intentional thinking goes into it. Actually there are 2 main All-Stop rests we try to book in advance. The first is a personal retreat and the second is the annual vacation. It was so...Read Full Post »
|Posted by Valerie Ling on November 4, 2019 at 12:55 AM|
Our sense of self can be so negatively shaped by our sense of defectiveness and shame. So often we make the mistake of basing our identity in things beyond our control. In my latest vlog, I share some of my own experiences and hardships when it comes to forming an accurate sense of self. Ultimately, we must have compassion for ourselves. Let's embrace the re...Read Full Post »
|Posted by Valerie Ling on October 28, 2019 at 3:15 AM|
In my team, this means I am in execution mode, I do not have the capacity to deal with the details, I just need the blow by blow account of what I need to do. It's a phrase I use as a shortcut and it's caught by my beloved Assistants (I have 2, I NEED 2) who know that means I am requiring their strengths in detail and logistics. It means I also have absolute trust to take direction from them and accept their influence. It means they have trust that it will be ca... Read Full Post »
|Posted by Valerie Ling on October 21, 2019 at 2:45 AM|
One of the common issues that I hear come up in working with burnout in small business owners is the emotional exhaustion they experience negotiating conflict within their team. You spend so much time as a business owner building something from your own personal space that when we have other people "move in", the communication ...Read Full Post »
|Posted by Valerie Ling on October 13, 2019 at 11:40 PM|
How hard can it be to get open communication and alignment in a small business? Very.
Some of the costs are:
- Team friction
- Erosion of small business owner and team trust
- Time and money wasted on having repair conversations
- Regret that all this could have been avoided earlier on in the piece.
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