|Posted by Valerie Ling on February 12, 2020 at 6:30 AM|
Raw Chicken and Onions
I was on my way home from work when I thought about how it was going to be tricky to get dinner going while trying to fit some things that had cropped up. I thought about how I could simplify the process and perhaps delegate it out. One of the values I have as a parent is for my children to find opportunities to serve others. I thought this would be a great opportunity for one of them to serve the family - by cooking dinner.
I called home and a very tired child picked up the phone. Apparently they had an excursion today and had been on the trampolines for hours. As I broached the topic of cooking dinner, I was not sensing enthusiasm from them. I was tempted to skirt round the issue and probably withdraw the request.
However, that's not how life works is it? There are going to be times when no matter how tired you feel, you need to do the things of life! Cook, help out around the house, hold a job and do what you need to do. I decided this was an opportunity to help this child of mine work through this request and find a source of resilience to express an important family value, and have a chance to see what they could do when they reached in.
We are currently reorganising our chores around our children's strengths. What they are good at, what they do out of a natural curiosity and interest. So I worked through this with my child to find a way to expand their energy and find the perspective to serve though they were tired.
Here's what happened. I knew that if I said dinner would mean cutting raw chicken and onions, they would be interested and motivated. You see this child has a fascination with raw meat! They like the way it looks, feels and gets great satisfaction from cutting it. Weird? It seems to be linked with their interest in health related topics. They also are able to watch movies where there are autopsies and has an interest in the human body.
Now the fact that we were having chicken dinner was a winner . I added that they could chop the onions! This child also has an interest in drama, and frequently wishes they were able to spontaneously cry. So chopping the onions is their opportunity to shed some tears and re-enact some scene in their minds.
Shifting their energy to an expansive space through focusing on their strengths, natural curiosities and interests gave them the opportunity to serve without giving up.
It's much the same with us. We can't escape from life's responsibilities. By locating our interests, strengths and curiosities, we can find that our energy expands when we expand our focus away from what we are not good at, what we dread, to finding how we can work in our strengths and within our interests.
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