Fear is a powerful motivator with devastating impact

You’re afraid. That’s the bottom line. I was listening to a podcast yesterday and the presenter made a bold claim. He said that we are wired to be afraid. Most of our emotional material can be boiled down to being afraid. Afraid of failing – your partner, your children, your friends, your colleagues, your clients,

Languishing – the new normal?

I was recording a podcast interview yesterday and we got talking about this. What are we now experiencing since being 2 years in a pandemic? What is the new normal of functioning? What can we do about it? Languishing – between joyful and sorrowful. The middle space of emotional grey. The peaks are not quite

Lessons learned from space and Star Trek

Space, the final frontier… There’s something about exploring the unknown, learning new things, challenging what is known and discovering new ways. This fascination explains my interest in Star Trek, which I thought would mean I liked all types of science fiction. This proved to be untrue. After asking for book recommendations in the genre, I

Small steps to recover joy

I have been taking some steps towards recovering the creative aspects in my wellbeing plan. I was stuck for a while without realising why. Having done some journalling, the answer became clearer. In the last few years of a pandemic and other stressors, it seemed trivial to bring out the creative side. It felt like

Check in with others to show your support

A couple of years ago I attended a conference about support for first responders. What really stood out to me was the focus on creating a culture where people check in on one another. For first responders, expressing difficult emotions or distress can be seen as weakness. There is often a culture of pushing through

When “I’m fine” isn’t fine for those around us.

Is “I’m fine” something you say when asked how you are doing? To convince yourself? To ward off further questions? Curiously, when I looked up the definition of the word ‘fine’ it can either mean ‘of very high quality’ or ‘very thin and narrow’. Perhaps you are able to produce very ‘fine’ work. Perhaps you

Disruptions to work flow do not have to be normal

I was on a walk with someone the other day. When they made a statement that seemed to be universally true. Except, it was not all that true for me. “Don’t you find it’s hard to be productive when you are leading a team due to all the disruptions you get from email, messages, phone

You’re a good leader when you inspire movement

When you think of a leader, who comes to your mind? It’s not just the corporate or national leader.  I would include teachers and parents as examples in this list. Leadership is a process. Anyone can fit this role. Anyone can develop in this role. Some of us will need help and ongoing coaching to