Is “I’m fine” something you say when asked how you are doing? To convince yourself? To ward off further questions?
Curiously, when I looked up the definition of the word ‘fine’ it can either mean ‘of very high quality’ or ‘very thin and narrow’.
Perhaps you are able to produce very ‘fine’ work.
Perhaps you are performing at very thin and narrow energy bandwidths.
‘Fine’ does not always mean we are at optimal levels of energy or mental health. Many times people do not want to talk about how they are really doing. Ask them how their work is going, or about events taking place in the world. Just don’t ask them how they are. Everything is – fine.
If we hold on to that mentality, we’ll soon find that we are in effect not giving our highest quality to those around us. Instead, we are likely operating from a narrowed and restricted space.
Running on empty.
Reacting without reflecting.
Interacting within our blindspots.
Falling to a heap and starting up again.
Making small adjustments, and embracing ‘finetuning’, to achieve our best performance requires us to attend to the gaps and vulnerabilities in our well-being. When we do this, we are indeed being ‘fine’ for the people around us.