Valerie Ling

Clinical Psychologist Pennant Hills, Hornsby and Hills District



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Be sticky!

Posted by Valerie Ling on July 29, 2020 at 8:25 AM

I dream in Post-its ... and I refuse to use the fakes


I love the story of how Post-its were invented. A seemingly useless discovery in a lab and a problem with pieces of paper falling out of a hymnal led to one of the most elegant and useful solutions.


Many fakes have come since. But I can tell you, there is nothing more frustrating than having your ideas and sequences fall apart because the fakes don’t stick and they fall off!!



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You won't fly if you don't try, and you won't try if you are fried

Posted by Valerie Ling on July 22, 2020 at 8:05 AM

*** You won't fly if you don't try, and you won't try if you are fried ***


It's a little silly sounding....hear me out ...


Two years ago, I stepped out onto a stage for one of the first larger audiences where I would speak about resilience in the face of burnout. I thought I had done a terrible job of it. The main talk wasn't too bad, however, the breakout session I took was a disaster. That's what I thought. People were skeptical, I thought. The exerci...

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My Social Media

Posted by Valerie Ling on June 19, 2020 at 1:35 AM

My love-hate relationship with social media has come to a neat analysis and I am sharing it with you here so it makes sense when you are following Valerie Ling on all the various spaces. Shaped by (strangely enough) COVID-19 experiences engaging in the public space. If you struggle in the Social Media space, this reflective blog might be helpful in working out how to present yourself...



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Posted by Valerie Ling on May 30, 2020 at 4:10 AM

I hope to be a "handsome woman". Was how a dinner table conversation started with my family. "What does that mean mum". Truthfully, I don't really know. Remember that old comedy "The Golden Girls"? For some reason I really wanted to be a Dorothy. Tall, stately, poised, the voice of reason and with a slight bite to her. As I approach the age of 50, I look nothing like a Dorothy, and I can't really pull off her sarcasm.


Lately I have been reflecting on the lost conversation o...

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Not too bright please,..

Posted by Valerie Ling on May 23, 2020 at 8:45 AM

Not too bright please...


We were due to move to an Asian country, my two toddlers had only known Australia as home. In my eagerness to quell my anxiety about it, I probably projected some things onto what they were feeling. So I painted the future bright. I spoke of playgrounds, interesting food, a country that never slept, beaches, and who know what else. Filled with great anticipation, we left behind home in Australia, all things familiar and set a...

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Gaining Momentum WIthout Burning Out

Posted by Valerie Ling on May 18, 2020 at 2:20 AM

Momentum. Mass in motion. Building speed. A product of mass and velocity, building, growing, moving forward.


I was asked this week in a small group training session what my opinion was on how many hours of work was the limit before burnout sets in. I used to confidently answer this question until I realised that many variables play into this.


For example, my work day today looked like this:


8:30am. Recording and editing my Resilience in...

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Toilet Paper and Burnout

Posted by Valerie Ling on March 9, 2020 at 2:50 AM

Toilet Paper and Burnout ...


It's no laughing matter - as a business owner this week I am placing priority on reviewing COVID-19 for our procedures and reaching out to our clients who are likely to feel quite anxious.


It did cause me to stop and think about the mentality of scarcity and fear. It seems a basic human instinct to assume that we will run out of essential resources and that we will feel trapped and out of options. Assuming this position leads ...

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Get used to pacing

Posted by Valerie Ling on February 25, 2020 at 3:15 AM

Every appliance I have ever had I am used to taking care of the motor it has so as not to burn it out. Giving them a rest in between high intensity bursts. I get really uncomfortable when I start to sense the motor heating up and I am quick to switch it off.


Do you feel that way about yourself as well? Usually we blame our lousy motor for not being able to keep up. We think we must have some faulty part some where. That other people must be the superior version of human, wh...

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Freedom comes in many ways

Posted by Valerie Ling on February 22, 2020 at 10:50 PM

Going through my Sunday, I am aware of feeling a kind of fatigue. My body is asking me to rest up today, and my mind is asking for a break from the details of moving house, managing the gremlins in the practice and keeping up to date with the home-school routines (another note????) . I am aware of a few small shifts I have made today, and I wanted to share with you...


Sunday is a day of church for us, and I chose to sit in a section that was totally different today. I met a...

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Work That Dress!

Posted by Valerie Ling on February 12, 2020 at 5:35 PM

When you are piled up with all the things that are going wrong and you know you need to do something different! Here's what happened today:

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