Blog

view:  full / summary

Option B

Posted by Valerie Ling on October 27, 2020 at 4:00 PM

In her book "Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy" Sheryl Sandberg, the COO of Facebook, tells the heart breaking story of suddenly losing her husband. She reveals openly her struggles and attempts to work through her grief. She tells of the time when her young children were to attend an event that their father would have accompanied them to. Instead someone else stepped in to do this. In the book she recounts how distraught she was, that she wanted her husband...

Read Full Post »

The gift of 15 minutes

Posted by Valerie Ling on October 25, 2020 at 2:50 AM

The gifts of 15 minutes ...

Recently I have been noting the various ways we can bring relief, rest, and resourcing from 15 minutes. Here are some examples ...

Sleep in 15 minutes once in a while

Sleep earlier 15 minutes once in a while

Sit down and have your lunch for 15 minutes

Read 1 chapter of a book in 15 minutes

Put your feet up for 15 minutes

Stretch your body out for 15 minutes

Call a friend for 15 minutes

Listen to a favourite sou...

Read Full Post »

Zero to Heroes

Posted by Valerie Ling on October 25, 2020 at 2:50 AM

What's my mission?

I used to feel all weird talking about this one. Like who really cares to hear what you are passionate about.

Fast forward to many years of being in business and doing it against all odds and tides of time, and it is no longer a frivolous topic.

My mission is to see a World Without Burnout, so that we go from Zero to Heroes.

Zero: from being tanked out, depleted, on the ground, aimless, faceless, and soul-less to

Heroes: Leading, inspiring, mo...

Read Full Post »

Dreaming Authentically

Posted by Valerie Ling on October 5, 2020 at 5:15 AM

"Dear 2020

This year we flew the kite and expected lift off without mental drag...." Were the words I wrote to myself in projection of what the end of 2020 would look like.

It's been a long weekend here in Sydney, Australia and I have had the best reset.

Then, I decided to revisit a letter I wrote to myself (as I always do each year). It's something I do each quarter, along with the goals and targets for my personal and professional aspirations for the year.

If I we...

Read Full Post »

Feeling like a phoney and a fake

Posted by Valerie Ling on September 10, 2020 at 10:10 AM

For a while I was feeling like a second rate Psychologist and Clinical Supervisor. That's hard for me to write down anywhere - let alone in a public sphere like this.

Moving deep into the burnout space meant I was innovating beyond what my peers and the research were able to provide. I felt completely alone and was searching for something that would help me fix that feeling of being a fake.

It was like I was hurtling into deep space without a tether.

One day I sat down and...

Read Full Post »

Reconnect

Posted by Valerie Ling on September 4, 2020 at 5:35 AM

I wonder what assumptions you make about:

 

The family life of your neighbours

The success of your friends

The social life of your FaceBook connections

 

Do you find yourself thinking you're living a dull, unfulfilled and chaotic life as compared to them?

 

Do you come down hard on yourself for not doing more, being more to turn that around?

 

They are common mental short cuts we take and they bias us to be discon...

Read Full Post »

Power Down

Posted by Valerie Ling on September 1, 2020 at 2:10 AM

How do you wind up your day - Sun Set time...Power Down...

 

So I am sitting here for the last hour just powering down. I had one child who needed some medical attention, as soon as I arrived at work (thanks to his dad who managed to pick up the phone and manage that). That took a bit of deep breathing, and clear-headed thinking to not run straight back into the car and race back to home.

 

Then a series of meetings in the practice, and much needed brain sto...

Read Full Post »

15 Minute Rest Challenge

Posted by Valerie Ling on August 31, 2020 at 11:45 PM

The challenge of a 15 minute pit stop

 

I gave out the challenge to a group of early career psychologists this week to do a 15 minute all stop each day. It was received with a little apprehension!

 

Why is that? What makes it so difficult for to just stop. Perhaps these buzzing thoughts come to mind

 

"That's being lazy"

"That's a waste of time"

"That's going to set me back"

"I wouldn't know what to do"

"What if I ca...

Read Full Post »

Be sticky!

Posted by Valerie Ling on July 29, 2020 at 8:25 AM

I dream in Post-its ... and I refuse to use the fakes

 

I love the story of how Post-its were invented. A seemingly useless discovery in a lab and a problem with pieces of paper falling out of a hymnal led to one of the most elegant and useful solutions.

 

Many fakes have come since. But I can tell you, there is nothing more frustrating than having your ideas and sequences fall apart because the fakes don’t stick and they fall off!!

 

W...

Read Full Post »

You won't fly if you don't try, and you won't try if you are fried

Posted by Valerie Ling on July 22, 2020 at 8:05 AM

*** You won't fly if you don't try, and you won't try if you are fried ***

 

It's a little silly sounding....hear me out ...

 

Two years ago, I stepped out onto a stage for one of the first larger audiences where I would speak about resilience in the face of burnout. I thought I had done a terrible job of it. The main talk wasn't too bad, however, the breakout session I took was a disaster. That's what I thought. People were skeptical, I thought. The exerci...

Read Full Post »

Rss_feed